20 lessons from my thirties

The Filling

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I recently read a book by marketing guru, Paul Arden, called It’s Not How Good You Are, It’s How Good You Want To Be which sets out his life tips on how to ‘make the impossible possible’. Not claiming (at all!) to have any comparable amount of experience or wisdom, but I thought I might share with you some of the things I have learnt in my thirties in the hope that maybe you might find one of them helpful.

So here goes – in no particular order:

  1. Be open to new experiences – you never know where they will lead or how you might grow from them
  2. Make networking about learning about new people not what they can do for you – that will come as a result of you taking an interest in others
  3. Challenge yourself always – have a goal
  4. Be yourself – in all forms, let your guard down sometimes – that’s when people will most be able to relate to you
  5. Don’t just do your work and keep quiet about it – no one will shout about you more than you – manage your brand
  6. Be honest – avoiding tough messages doesn’t benefit anyone
  7. Look forward to feedback and failure – they are the only ways to learn
  8. You can be nice and still be respected as a leader – just remember that having people like you is great but you still need to be resilient, work towards your goal and sometimes you have to be selfish (cos others will be too)
  9. Always listen to other people’s ideas – regardless of their role or title. Creativity and originality can come from anywhere.
  10. You can always make a difference – no matter where you sit within an organisation. Don’t wait for others, your boss to tell you what to do – they are busy running the company. Bring new ideas, participate, be creative.
  11. Take holidays – don’t just work
  12. Exercise – endorphins are the best stressbusters (it doesn’t have to be crazy exercise!)
  13. Be grateful – for family, friends and for stuff
  14. Have a crew who will support you – a work crew, a friend crew, a sports crew…
  15. Always move forward – don’t dwell on the past, learn from it and move on – the best is yet to come
  16. No one has life sorted – don’t get FOMO when you look at those insta pics – just focus on you
  17. YOLO – Have fun. Work hard but remember to enjoy the journey and be in the moment, don’t just focus on the next thing (or on your phone)
  18. Always give your best (even if your best isn’t amazing!) because you’ll regret it otherwise
  19. If stuff is bad – change it or get out but don’t just carry on
  20. Drink coffee – it solves 99% of all problems

PS: Pic is courtesy of my lovely work crew. No pigs were harmed during the shoot.